A friend just sent me the Miss Manners post below. I'm not sure why some people feel like it's OK to ask questions about the money we make (or don't make) as artists and musicians; I feel sure the same people wouldn't say, "Oh, flipping burgers huh? Bet that doesn't pay much!" And I always cringe at the way their faces fall when I tell them I have a day job...as if this must mean I'm not very good at what I do. Sometimes I think the only sort of response that would give me any credibility would be something like, "I am employed at the National Music Corporation as Chief Executive Soprano in charge of Staccati and Cadenzas."
Dear Miss Manners:
I am a professional artist. I show my work frequently and sell many
pieces. However, like many independent artists, I don't make as much
money as others in regular, full-time employment. I am very lucky to
have a supportive spouse helping to cover expenses.
When I tell people I am a full-time artist, they often ask if I make
enough money to support myself. I usually answer truthfully, saying
no, or not yet, and adding that my spouse helps support me.
I am aware that how much money I earn is nobody's business and I am
not obliged to answer these questions at all. I would much appreciate
any suggestions for deflecting them -- politely, of course.
Miss Manners answers:
"Yes, it's a sure road to easy riches. You should try it."